Relationship With Others 105: How To Disciple Others

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Discipleship is mentoring

In some circumstances, don’t use the official title of “disciple”

Sometimes the word “mentorship” or “advisor” is more fitting

Mentoring is one-on-one teaching

Develop the correct mindset

  • Have a passion for seeing the lost come to Christ (1 Corinthians 10:33, 1 Corinthians 11:1)
  • Stay focused on heavenly prizes (1 Corinthians 9:24-27, Philippians 3:12-20, Hebrews 11:24-26)

Stay faithful (Hebrews 6:11-15, Romans 4:16-21)

  • Believe in things you don’t see as if you can see them (Romans 4:17)
  • Believe what God has spoken (Romans 4:18)
  • Preoccupy yourself with God’s promises to where issues don’t cause worry (Romans 4:19-20)
  • Give glory to God in advance and praise Him for blessings before they happen (Romans 4:20)
  • Live free of anxiety (Philippians 4:6-9)

Listen for Him (Isaiah 30:21, Mark 4:24)

  • Read His Word
  • Listen to His Spirit
  • Listen for His will

Live rightly

  • Maintain your integrity (Proverbs 20:7, Psalm 101:2, Job 27:5-6)
  • Work diligently (Acts 20:33-35, 2 Thessalonians 3:6-12, 2 Timothy 2:15)
  • Have a servant’s heart (Mark 10:35-45, John 13:3-17, Galatians 5:13, 2 Kings 5:20-27, Philippians 2:5-11)
  • Conduct yourself gently (2 Timothy 2:24-26)
  • Obey God when you know His will (1 Peter 1:13-15)

Leaders have a harsher judgment than non-leaders (Matthew 18:6)

  • God holds leaders to a higher standard than everyone else (James 3:1)
  • God doesn’t take a teacher’s role lightly (Acts 20:28)

Use wisdom and discernment in whom you mentor

Don’t judge outward appearance (1 Samuel 16:6-7, 1 Corinthians 1:27-29)

A disciple must be both faithful to God and teachable to your input

  • They should question you from curiosity but shouldn’t be rebellious
  • Some people only want attention or emotional support but don’t listen to others who help them

Don’t disciple someone of the opposite gender

  • Discipling the opposite gender can easily fall into unhealthy codependency or sexual immorality

If you have children, parenting is mentoring

If possible, avoid mentoring someone about the same age or older than you

  • The relationship becomes lopsided from additional life experience on behalf of the disciple
  • Some younger people think two years is a broad age gap, but they’re both on the same level of life experience

You must encourage, comfort, and instruct (1 Thessalonians 2:11, 2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

Nurture them in their new or relatively new faith (1 Timothy 1:2)

  • Invest into them like a son or daughter (1 Timothy 1:18/4:14-15, 2 Timothy 1:3-6)
  • Don’t invest in their lives for any personal benefit (Proverbs 13:22, 2 Corinthians 12:14-15, 2 Peter 2:3)
  • Take advantage of every opportunity (Acts 16:1-3,6,7, Titus 1:4, Philippians 1:8-21)
  • Delight in them and stay devoted to them (2 Corinthians 2:12-13, 2 Timothy 1:2-5, 3 John 4)
  • Keep up with your personal spiritual growth (Deuteronomy 4:9, Ephesians 4:15, Philippians 3:12, 1 Timothy 4:12-16)

New disciples must learn a few things

  1. God faithfully and justly forgives (1 John 1:9-10,2:1,2:12)
  2. Not everything is the way it seems (1 John 2:18-28)
  3. A person’s lifestyle shows their true spirituality (Matthew 7:20-21, 1 John 3:5-10)
  4. We must love in action, not just in words (1 John 3:17-19)
  5. The devil doesn’t need to be feared (1 John 4:1-4)
  6. Idolatry is a real and persistent danger (1 John 5:21)
  7. They have rights and privileges in God’s kingdom as they gain victories and boldly move in Christ

Take time to show an example to set the pace (2 Timothy 3:10-11)

  • Reproduce yourself into them (2 Corinthians 12:14-19, Philippians 2:19-22, 2 Timothy 3:10-11)
  • Avoid dictating to them, especially as they gain in knowledge (1 Peter 5:1-3)

Disciples are responsible for practicing truths they’ve learned (2 John 4, 3 John 4, James 1:22)

Make your disciple a partner in ministry instead of subordinate (Romans 16:21)

  • Delegate to them and release them to their projects (Colossians 4:7-9, Titus 1:4-13, 1 Thessalonians 3:1-7)
  • Depend on them to become mentors themselves (1 Timothy 4:12,16, 2 Timothy 2:1-2)
  • They should eventually out-succeed you (Genesis 37:9-11, Deuteronomy 30:5, 2 Corinthians 10:13)
  • They should know everything you know
  • They will never outgrow their need for prayers (Romans 1:17, 2 Corinthians 3:18, 2 Timothy 1:3, 1 Thessalonians 5:25, 2 Thessalonians 3:1, Philemon 22)

Discipleship is an act of endurance, not a one-time circumstance

  • Be prepared to spend plenty of time giving input and sharing
  • Discipleship often feels like a second job
  • A spiritual father never really retires

Expect your leadership role to expand

If you can disciple others, God may call you to a higher position of leadership in the Church

  • Don’t become a church leader until you’ve sufficiently guided others

Next: Leading A Church